draft/outline of motherhood thing

motherhood/index.gmi

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+=> motherhood-belongs-to-trans-women.gmi motherhood belongs to trans women
 => trans-breastfeeding.gmi notes on transsexual breastfeeding; a living document

motherhood/motherhood-belongs-to-trans-women.gmi

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+# the nature of mothering
+
+## i
+
+> I want to shriek at
+> any identity
+> this culture gives me claw it to
+> pieces; has nothing to
+> do with me or
+> my baby and never will,
+> has never perceived a
+> human being.
+> - noltey;
+
+[`unbecoming women` & `the beloved` -- maggie nelson, susan fraiman, john cage]
+
+to change your whole
+
+## ii
+
+[`natural motherhood` | "seams & sutures"]
+
+the obsession with the natural. an idealized
+
+## iii
+
+a nurse enters a postpartum suite and approaches a new mother holding her infant, eighteen hours old. her milk is not yet in, but the pair have had some success practicing the latch they'll need to establish in the coming days. the nurse [...] this, she explains, is the "super secret daddy hold". before she is able to describe its uses a voice from behind her interrupts, "that's not a word we use in our family." this is the voice of the birth mother. she is in the habit of correcting casual misgendering of her co-mom
+
+## iv
+
+[`the impossibility of trans motherhood | queer motherhood`]
+
+## v
+
+[`child bearing | naturalization`]
+
+> Labor, as it is henceforth conceived, is tantamount to the exploitation of nature, which is contrasted to the exploitation of the proletariat with naïve self-satisfaction. Compared to this positivistic conception, the fantasies which provided so much ammunition for the ridicule of Fourier exhibit a surprisingly healthy sensibility. According to Fourier, a beneficent division of social labor would have the following consequences: four moons would illuminate the night sky; ice would be removed from the polar cap; saltwater from the sea would no longer taste salty; and wild beasts would enter into the service of human beings. All this illustrates a labor which, far from exploiting nature, is instead capable of delivering creations whose possibility slumbers in her womb. To the corrupted concept of labor belongs, as its logical complement, that nature which, as Dietzgen put it, “is there gratis [for free].” - Benjamin
+
+> the transsexual body is an unnatural body - Stryker
+> more work for mother
+> biopolitics of fatherhood
+
+## vi
+
+[`separation & alienation from our children | inadequacy`]
+
+> But it seems worth emphasizing that one of the consequences of our society’s gender stereotyping enterprise is to make many mothers feel that in order to be “real” mothers (or even “real” women), they must be so excessively nurturing that their children enter the world with the expectation that all of their needs will automatically be met. - MARI RUTI
+
+the gendering of nurture
+
+## vii
+
+[`divorce | failure`]
+
+a defining feature of authentic womanhood is the failure to live up to its ideal form.
+
+## viii
+
+[everyone must mother as a utopian, family-abolitionist slogan]
+
+transgression of the family form is something our cis partners can gain through us. we are positioned as outside, as a challenge to, the naturalized divinity of the two-parent family makes us a conveinent personification of your liberated polycule, or whatever your queer utopian alternative may be. our presence shores up their claim to be dismantling and abolishing. when relationships become strained and the system cracks, blends, and reforms the outcome is predictable: another trans mom is separated from her home and her baby, uniquely understood as having failed to live up to her proper role.
+
+## ixv
+
+[`abjection & miserable forms` -- bataille]
+
+## x
+
+[`postpartum depression | dispair`]
+
+i decided to induce lactation years before i named myself a woman.
+
+## xi
+
+[`the impossibility of motherhood | becoming women`]
+
+## xii
+
+[`reproductive labor `]
+
+## xiii
+
+[`embodied womanhood | having "the jugs"`]
+
+## xiv
+
+trans motherhood fails to be new or subversive.
+
+## xv
+
+motherhood and womanhood are aesthetically and morally identical.
+
+## xvi
+
+[the beloved, again]
+
+## xvii
+
+[`becoming` -- deleuze & guattari]
+
+> We know that many beings pass between a man and a woman; they come from different worlds, are borne on the wind, form rhizomes around roots; they cannot be understood in terms of production, only in terms of becoming.
+
+"trans women are women" vs "what connections are possible"
+
+## xvii(a)
+
+"which one"
+
+## xviii
+
+[labor again]
+
+a real rec
+genuine possibilities counter to the restrictions of the nuclear family and its binary configuration of the body can't materialize until [real recognition of trans motherhood]
+
+
+## a
+
+[exile & utopias of care]
+
+## b
+
+> In birthing my rage,
+> my rage has rebirthed me.
+> - stryker